Friday, January 10, 2020

No Regrets - SSS

Hello 2020! Do you remember when you were little, or I may just be dating myself, when 2020 was SOOOOOOOOO far into the future, or so we thought, that there were some strange ideas about how life might be. The Jetson's for instant. It first aired on September 23, 1962 and was syndicated in March of 1963. In the show they only mention an actual year once, 2062 but often referred to the "21st Century" numerous times.

Are we close to flying cars, robot maids, instant meals, video phones? Well, we are actually. On Christmas our youngest son called me, via video chat, we have microwaves to cook food in mere seconds, Instapot, air fryers and other wonderful products. Robot maids? Yes, the iRobot roomba, it vacuums so you don't have to.

We've come a long way baby!

So looking back, not just at 2019, but life in general. Often we ask, what would you differently? What are your regrets? What are your future goals? What are your resolutions this new year?

I don't do regrets. I don't do "I wish I had of" because I did the best I could at the time and I made conscious decisions. Maybe not all my life but most certainly the last few years. I refuse to live with regrets. If I screwed up, then I fess up. If I could have done better, then I do or at least try.
No living in the past, there's no future in it.
Head lifted, chin up, eyes forward, move ahead and learn from the errors, not mistakes, not failures but lessons.

There are things I see now that I should have worked harder at, relationships that need repair and some that just need to be cut off.

2019 held a lot of self discovery and not all of it was pretty, well, most of it wasn't. I can be lazy, procrastinate entirely too much especially when it is something I dread doing or facing. The past four years there was a lesson I needed much earlier but wasn't ready for. That is that I am important and need some self-care, reflection and down time but in that I tend to become too relaxed and get slack on some things.

I also discovered that the "help" that was taking so much of me was really enabling and I need to recognize this sooner. It becomes a habit and it's difficult to not help but how can they learn if we always do it for them? turning 30, 40, 50 any number that carries with it a "turning point", coming of age, maturing, monumental time. There will be a lot of changes this year, what you ask? I have no idea really but I feel it in my bones. I know it in my spirit.

Changes are coming and I don't dread them at all.
Welcome to the first creative writing challenge of 2020. If you've been around you know I've participated in these for some time now. Today is the SSS or Secret Subject Swap. As a reminder 7 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts. If you're a blogger and interested in joining us, once or all year, be sure to message Karen over at Baking In A Tornado. She'd love to sign you up.

Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts.  Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there:

Wandering Web Designer  
Southern Belle Charm       
Part-time Working Hockey Mom

Medicated Musings
Your “Secret Subject” is:
What’s your biggest regret from 2019? Why? Can you get a do over?
It was submitted by:    

Dawn ~


  1. Regrets .. I'm with you. Try not to have them, but always look back to see how I can hopefully improve on some things. 2019 wasn't an awful year, but with an extra day in 2020 and .. just a cool year number, let's all have great ones!

    1. I agree. Cheers to a great 2020
      Thanks PJ!

  2. I've been through some good times with you and some bad. I'm glad you have no regrets, but if changes are coming this year, I hope they're all good ones.

    1. Only good ones are accepted. LOL
      Will it all be perfect? I'm sure not but it will all be okay either way.

  3. You have a wonderful attitude, and I think it'll help you to conquer it all. Happy 2020, Dawn :-)

  4. The one thing that strikes me as so important in what you say, is that it is destructive to live with regret. You can't change what happened even if you screwed up badly, so learn from it if you can and move on. Festering regret can ruin the rest of your life if you allow it to.

  5. Regrets do nothing for you.
    Now if only I can remember that, because 2019 was FULL of regrets for me.

  6. Time flies by so fast it isn't worth it to waste it with regrets.