Monday, January 13, 2020

Damaged vs Broken - New Year - BWF 2020 Jan

Damaged vs Broken, How to see the new year in a fruit cup.

Welcome to the first edition of Blog With Friends for 2020. Our theme this month is new year. Go figure right. At the bottom of this post you'll find links for everyone participating, a collage of projects and a sneak peek if you will of each. I hope you'll visit and return next month to see what we are all up to.

2019 was a very difficult year for many. I sit here today, the last day of the year reading post after post on social media about how horrible the year was. How broken and damaged they are and how they hope and pray this coming year is better.

The word "damaged" is repeated over and over along with "broken" and "surviving". Maybe it's because of what I have been through or the rebellious nature within me but it causes my spirit to rise up and shout NO! I refuse to be labeled as a broken person and I refuse to just survive. Why you ask because to say I am broken because that lends itself to the thought that I am not fixable. Broken as in the toaster is broken and no longer of any use, in the garbage it goes. I am not broken. Damaged, I'll go with because I feel that lends itself to being repaired. I damaged the car but it can be repaired, restored and driven again. Surviving is just that, barely making it, surviving.

No! I will not be a broken surviving person.

I AM a person who was damaged and has been repaired, maybe even still being repaired as I type this. Also, a thriving person, not a survivor because that lends itself to the victim mentality and I want none of that. I want to be a thriving victor, a thriving warrior NOT a surviving victim.

Truth be told, labeling really bothers me no matter what form it comes in. Yes, labeling is good when it comes to chemicals, cleaners, food, medication and so on but for people why do we need labels. Why can't we just be?

Men, women, children, babies, kids, adults, elderly people.
Not fat, not thin, no black, white, Asian, Hispanic. Just people.

Who made these labels? When did they start and when will they end?

Live your life because you only get this one. Enjoy the journey because you do not know when it will end. Love those around you because we also do not know when their last breath will be.

Live people.
Be a warrior.
Repair yourself through knowledge of experiences, some good and some not so  good.
Learn from the experiences and 
Move forward.
What has all of that got to do with a fruit cup? Well, I was getting ready for bible study and needed to take a dessert. I also wanted it to be something I could enjoy. So I thought about a light refreshing fruit salad. But here was the kicker, I was broke. Seriously did not need to spend the little we had left, needed gas in the Jeep and knew it was a long drive to the meeting place. I needed to create a salad with what I had on hand.
See, being broke in whatever form, can cause anxiety, it can be embarrassing and it can feel like the end of the world in that moment. But it doesn't have to be.
I was broke in a monetary sense but not without thoughts and limited resources.
So I looked at what I had and worked with that.
Similar to life. Sometimes we don't have the means to go to the doctor, visit a therapist or counselor, so we work with what we have. We have the internet, friends, coworkers, family members, library, our bible, church, the list is pretty extensive.
We don't have to be broke or damaged, we have to set our minds in a course for healing, decide to "fix" it as it were.
Doesn't work for all situations I'm aware but it can't hurt to try.

So looking at my simple ingredients, my broke state, I fashioned a fruit salad that everyone raved about, loved and wanted the recipe for. I'll admit, I was a little embarrassed at first to say, well I used what I had. No one looked down on me, no one was shocked they were all very accepting and complimentary of my resourcefulness and delicious creation.

My recipes as with my life are always changing. Going with the flow as it were. Using what is on hand, throwing it all together and making it work. Life like food can be complicated if we let it.

Here is my simple but delicious fruit salad.
1 can crushed pineapple
1 can mandarin orange slices
1 pkg sugar free vanilla pudding mix
1/2 cup fresh raspberries
1 apple, diced up
1/2-1 cup sugar free whip topping 
In a large bowl I mixed the juice from the oranges with the pudding mix. Next I stirred in the pineapple. Then the oranges also the diced apple and folded in the whipped topping. I then remembered the raspberries and threw them in as a surprise. Once it was all folded in together, I had a taste. OH MY! YES! Money!! Then I sprinkled a couple of tablespoons of high energy no nut granola over the top for that crunch factor.

Be sure to visit all the others from our Blog With Friends.

A sneak peek at each...
Karen from Baking In A Tornado
Lydia from Cluttered Genius
Tamara from Part Time Working Hockey Mom
Melissa of Heart Felt Sentiments
Thanks for stopping by


  1. Love your attitude in general, and the way you relate it to your recipe today is perfect.
    Sometimes the simplest recipes turn out to be the most flavorful.

    1. Thanks so much. Definitely the best recipes have been 'throw togethers'

  2. "Work with what you have" is something my boss taught me at my first job as an HR manager. I had these high expectations of putting together highly skilled, newly hired team members, and he always rooted for the existing "heads of special projects" (code for you can't fire them for humanitarian reasons, but they don't really fit any job description).

    I may not have been fully on board with it then, but I certainly got it over the years. I may actually be preaching it today... And it's certainly true in the kitchen!

    1. The "star" team isn't always possible and yes we have to "work with what we have" in life in general. Lemons into lemonade.

  3. Dawn, I think this is alot better than a new year's resolution!
    Work with what you have, in all aspects of your life! ❤

  4. Needed to heat this. Damaged but thriving and the recipe looks amazing