Friday, July 8, 2016

Gourmet Burgers by W and SSS

My children are all grown and are scattered all over. I miss them terribly but have many many happy memories. Most of those memories are from our days of home-schooling. It was a blessing that I enjoyed and have days where I miss it.

During those early years, we struggled. There were things that the boys 'got' right away and others things, that I would explain over and over and over only for them to look at me like I had three heads and they had NO idea WHAT I was talking about. Those were the hair pulling days, mine not theirs.

(something else I learned, is that there are times when we have to let go and let others do things for us and in their own way) hence letting W cook supper and in his own way. Scroll to the end of this post for the recipe.
Then one day on the radio I heard this lady talking about "teaching them how they learn" and I was intrigued. I listened intently to the program and as soon as it was over, I was online looking for her book. "The way they learn" by Cynthia Tobias. It was life changing for us. I found out what my boys "learning style" was and mine. See, we teach how we learn and since I am a visual learner and audio, my "let me tell you while I show you" approach was lost on my kinesthetic learner. I started learning how to teach in their learning style and they took off! It changed our world immensely and so I was super excited to share this with my home-school friends. I held a special meeting for our group where I shared with our members what I had learned and how it had helped us. Many of our members ordered a book of their own and were soon telling me how grateful they were.

I thought about this a few weeks ago at work. We have a temporary and she just was not getting it. Our finance officer said in frustration, "YOU show her, I'm sick of repeating myself." I thought, now why is this lady not getting it? So I asked her a few questions and found out that she is NOT a audio learner but visual. So I handed her the notes I had typed up and had her follow along while I showed her on the computer WHAT to do. Then she said "OH gosh I feel dumb, why didn't I get this before?" I said, you were just shown in a why that you could not comprehend. Soon she was doing great and again, I thought about that little book, that once again has changed not just my life but someone else's.

This post is part of the monthly challenge Secret Subject Swap.
If you are interested in the book I mentioned, look for it at your local library, Amazon or my favorite You can also find out more about learning styles at:

My subject was: Pick a book, movie, song or television show that has inspired you and explain how and why it inspired you.
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Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts.  Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there:
Baking In A Tornado                                   
Not That Sarah Michelle                       
The Bergham Chronicles                      
Dinosaur Superhero Mommy                      
My Brain on Kids                   
The Lieber Family Blog          
Never Ever Give Up Hope      
Confessions of a part time working mom
The Diary of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver   
Molly Ritterbeck                        
Juicebox Confession                   
Southern Belle Charm                                
When I Grow Up                      

Gourmet Burgers
1 1/2 lbs of lean ground beef
1 tsp salt
1 tsp fresh cracked black pepper
1 TBSP A1 seasoning rub
1 cup sharp shredded cheddar cheese
5 slices of crispy cooked bacon chopped
Mix well and form into 1/4 lb patties, cook on a grill or stove top in a non stick skillet to the desired way, well done, medium, medium rare or rare. I enjoy mine medium well.
We served them with fresh slices of tomato, with mustard and bbq sauce on the potato buns! Delicious
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  1. SO many frustration could be avoided if more people realized how true this is.

    1. I think it should be taught to management. So many managers would get a better response from their employees if they could teach them correctly instead of showing them in their way then being frustrated.

  2. This reminds me of the time College Boy was in middle school. He was an "A"
    student but wasn't getting a lesson the student teacher was teaching. Turns out most of the class wasn't. He stayed late but she just repeated herself. I contacted her and asked if there was another approach she could take and she said "no, this is how I teach". I said "if they're not learning, you're NOT teaching." I studied the material, taught it to my son who then taught it to his friends in class. Yes, we all learn differently, it's what makes us unique.
    Love both the burgers AND that W takes turns cooking.

    1. This happens so many times. I taught school and then would spend hours working on homework with the boys. I thought if I'm spending all this time I might as well keep them home.
      I am thankful he helps out. I did 15 hours yesterday and came home to find the clothes folded, the dishes done AND supper cooked!

  3. Yes! I'm definitely a visual learner. I can listen and learn, but it definitely sinks in better when it's visual.
    I'm craving a burger!!! Between you and Karen, I'm craving an entire meal.
    Great post!!

    1. I'm with you Jules. Yes ma'am the burgers were so good!

  4. I need that book! I had never thought about how I learn and how I teach before. This makes so much sense to me. Thanks!

    1. It is a great book and with a few questions you can find your primary and secondary learning style, plus those of your kids, grandkids, anyone. It is so helpful!

  5. Learning styles are so crucial, and if you're never told this, then you forever think your own way is the only one!
    I need a practical approach. This is why I never got bookkeeping at school. All we ever did were theoretical accounting records, debit this, credit that BS.

    Why did my teacher never give us REAL assignments?

    Like "here's your company. You source raw material, manufacture products and sell them. You need to make sure all the bills and workers are paid, and you want a profit margin of x% of your sales. Go!

    1. I know! My aunt is an accountant and she said in order to pass the test, reverse the answers from what you actually do. I said gee that's crazy, she said but true. I used to be a book keeper and I can say, the test for CPA is opposite of what I used to do.

  6. This is awesome! My son has been struggling in school and specifically with standardized testing. We've been so frustrated and worried that he will eventually grow to hate school or hate learning or think he's not smart and lose that confidence we love so much that I've been tempted to home school him. I'll definitely check this out, thank you or sharing and making the SSS topic I chose so meaningful for me, even though you couldn't have known, funny how life works!

  7. I have to do it to learn it. It gets frustrating when people spend all this time trying to tell me how to do something. I have to get it in my hands and try it out myself!

  8. That book sounds intriguing even though my kids are grown. I would think that learning about one's own style would give them all kinds of benefits.