Friday, November 6, 2015

SSS November - Dream Big

Welcome to a Secret Subject Swap. This week 15 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts. 

Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts.  Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there:

http://www.BakingInATornado.com                          Baking In A Tornado
http://themomisodes.com                                          The Momisodes
http://sparklyjenn.blogspot.com/                                 Sparkly Poetic Weirdo
http://batteredhope.blogspot.com                       Never Ever Give Up Hope
http://thelieberfamily.com                               The Lieber Family Blog
http://www.renasworld.com/                                   Rena’s World
http://dinoheromommy.com/                         Dinosaur Superhero Mommy
http://berghamchronicles.blogspot.com/              The Bergham Chronicles
http://thethreegerbers.blogspot.ch/                 Confessions of a part-time working mom
http://justalovelyday.blogspot.com                       Just a Lovely Day
http://www.someoneelsesgenius.com                 Someone Else’s Genius
http://climaxedtheblog.blogspot.com                       Climaxed
http://www.angrivatedmom.wordpress.com               The Angrivated Mom

Your “Secret Subject” is:
Something I wish that others knew about me...
It was submitted by: http://justalovelyday.blogspot.com            

I'm not so sure about this prompt...when you reveal your inner secrets, desires, hopes, dreams or even fears, you open yourself up to judgement and ridicule. Why? We are so quick to judge others. We put them down to build ourselves up. Personally I feel this is beyond WRONG! We should encourage one another, build up the other, take a back seat once in a while and allow someone else to have a shining moment. AND because this is not the case, that is part of the reason why I never did what I'm about to tell you.

"Something I wish that others knew about me..." I wanted to be a singer/actress when I was growing up. It was my one biggest dream. I had lots of dreams but my mom squashed them all. An artist, a singer, a designer, a ballerina, a writer, an actress...just to name a few. I was "too short" "too fat" "not good enough" and on and on. She wanted me to be "real". As an adult I see that she was scared of my failing. Scared I'd make it. Her mother was NOT an encourager and so neither was my mom. I grew up "half empty" and with an Eeyore mentality. I also was constantly trying to please my mom but have never been able to. To this day I have felt like the "red headed step child" who was unwanted and unloved instead of the only child who should have been loved, cherished and encouraged to go further than she had. 

In light of that, I refused to be my mother. I encouraged my children, praised them, loved them and begged them to reach for their dreams, to create outrageous goals and strive for them. I created dreamers. Much to my mothers disappointment but much to my thrill.

In many ways I lived through my children. They love to sing, act, draw, paint and are extremely talented. I sang with them, produced drama productions with and for them, bought so many musical instruments and equipment I've lost count and I have NO regrets about any of it. They are writers, actors, singers, musicians and wonderful loving sons who are mature functioning adults. I guess I did something right whether mommy dearest approves or not.

So...to topic, something I wish others knew, I want everyone to know that it is okay to dream, to set goals, to go after what you want and if you don't make it, BIG DEAL you can still say you tried, you grew and you learned from it. If you don't make it, you're no worse off that if you had not of tried. So TRY. JUST DO IT as Nike says. GO FOR IT. Dream Big! Because one day you'll be old and full of regrets if you don't. So I want you to all know that I encourage dreamers. I began to dream again last year and will continue as long as I have breath and if I never go any further in life than where I am now, at least I know I tried.

My motto: Dream Big! Because there are no failures, only lessons to be learned, goals to be set and dreams to achieve.
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9 comments:

  1. Dream big, I love it! Sounds like a provided your kids with an awesome, stimulating childhood! ❤
    Just a thought: your Mom - along with many others of her generation - may have been growing up in a time where it was more important to have safe, stable jobs and being decent citizens than following your inner calling, know what I mean?

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  2. I feel so bad for the young you, but I am so damn proud to be friends with the person you've become despite it all.

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  3. You and I were on the same wavelength with our posts! Overcoming our parents teachings isn't a job for the weak. Good for you, persevering past her negativity and creating a positive atmosphere for your adult life! You should pass down those secrets for raising dreamers, I could use a few tips!

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  4. Did your mom forbid wire hangers too? I'm so sorry you had to go through that, but you are an absolutely AMAZING person and SOOOO not like her.

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  5. It's true that we want to be/do all for our kids that our parents lacked. I think it's a wonderful objective.

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  6. I loved this! I agree so much. Life is hard enough without someone trying to take your dreams from you. It's funny because I am almost 46 and am now just starting to chase my dreams! I just finished my very first novel and can't wait to start on the next one!

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  7. You are a light and a joy and it is my pleasure to know you, Dawn. You dream your dreams, accomplish as many as you can, and, in the immortal words of Journey, don't stop believing!

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  8. I agree! Even if you aren't destined to become a famous violinist or ballet dancer, there are amazing life lessons you can learn from trying out those fields and giving it your all! I have a good friend who did ballet all her life. She's even danced professionally. But she's also a banker. There's a way to do both.

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  9. Amen. I want Gigi to dream so huge. It's like they say... Shoot for the sky, even if you fail, you'll land among the stars. I'm sorry your mom didn't encourage your dreams, but I'm glad you encourage your children. I'm going to make sure Gigi knows to dream big and work hard.

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